My 3rd wedding day or anniversary

Marriage is a bliss they say, and it turned out to be true.
I have to say I am very lucky when it comes to marriage and my life partner.

Today is my third anniversary and I am wondering how quickly time passed. 3years was like yesterday. When a loved or loving one is nearby time flies, and 3yrs is not a very short time.

To describe

My wife, my well wisher, my best half, my friend, pet, love, and my second mother who teaches, cares,loves, scolds me and prays for my well being and always makes sure I am looking good, feeling good, feeling and looking healthy. I forget my friends, earthly pleasures when she is around me. We laugh, we argue, we fight, we play, we sing, we make fun of, we nudge, we jump, we roll, we eat, all together when we are near each other.

We knew each other since 6th june 2002 and today 5th september 2014 totalling 12years and 3 months or 4775 days. Now I still feel its like yesterday we met, I can not believe its been 12yrs since we met. Whoo hoooooooo.

God is very kind to us and has gifted us with ATRI, our son. He is the bestest thing to have happened in our life. We forget our silly fights, arguments when we see him. I am sure I started writing about my married life but will end up wirting more about ATRI.

He is cute, adorable, intelligent, bubbly, and loves people being around. He is such a cutie we call him our hybrid baby. To me he looks half his mom and half me. He is the symbol of our life, he will make us proud.

Coming back again, poof, as my son deviates me from the job in hand.

3 years on and many more years to come I pray to god that we live together like this all through our life and reach heaven together not until my kids settle in their lives.

She asked me nothing expensive, expansive, items or things except my time.  Always and anyways she asks for my time and  be with them. Recently she asked for a gift for the first time and soon I will present the gift to her and it will be a reality.

Target phyton

2ND AUGUST:: Ok. Today I am trusting my sister and starting my course in phyton. I will post as I can about the progress.

10TH AUGUST wow I am so slow from my target. Reached 100 pages today. What I expected was 100 pages per day but it turned out to be 10 in a day. Need to buckle up and use nitro. Seriously.

12Th AUGUST.-- This week I am coming in the morning general shift 9am to 6pm. So I am now in the 120th page and proceeding slowly but steadly, surely. This target might take around 6 months.b I need to be more focussed and target specific.  Hope and faith will lead me. Praying to god for strength and focus.

Karma

We all regret some of our actions or rather inaction deeply. Sometimes you cannot forget it, it just keeps coming to you haunting your thoughts. One such incident happened in my office.

 I had a tough day and had to take a break.  The cafeteria was on the first floor and I took the lift.

I was on my way down and the lift stopped at 2nd floor, and there the lift door opened in a smooth sliding motion and I heard  a male voice from behind "Excuse me" and I turned back as the door was on its smooth motion into its shell to give way to ppl.

I moved away giving him the the smallest available space in the already cramped lift, and he managed to free himself to get out. As he left my eyes followed him getting out, the moment he crossed my vision  there for the slightest second I saw a man.

That man was physically challenged, he was using his aids and trying to move few steps to reach the lift, it still hurts, I saw another man get into the vacancy created by the person getting out. Observing this I did the unthinkable.  I did not move. 

I need to go down just one floor, I could have got out to let him in, the physically challenged person to use the lift.

I do not know who is wrong, the person who got in or me. I regret my in action.  As the lift door came closing in its smoother action I saw him struggle to move back a few steps.

There were atleast 10 of us in the lift, am I the only person regretting his in action. Bad karma. This would go in my mind as long as I can remember. But this blog will go as long as i die and will make sure I do not repeat it.

I will strive to be a good person and be attentive in the future.  My small action could have been a slap on the face for the person who got in and an eye opener for others. I will try not to  repeat this act again.

Gopinath Radhakrishnan

Happy birthday to me

This has to be my best birthday till date. I am a father now and first bday as a father. 

My son  atri is now 6 months old. He is going on his tummy, jerking as he tries to move on his knees, amazing feeling. Fantastic phase of life. Never really imagined that I would get such a lovely parents, siblings,  spouse and finally an amazing son.

When i feel that my son sri atri krishna is part of my soul, what else you could
Ask for in life.

I feel I want to be with him all through the day, never miss a second without seeing him, but I also have to earn money to keep them happy.

I would want my son do things that I couldn't.  But I think he will have his own passions in life and u dont wa t ti enforce my passions over his.

As I write this blog I have another 41 minutes for the clock to strike 12.

Like last year this year too I will take a resolution, that I will heed to the wishes of my family and live a life for them. Thus I would be able to keep them haply and there by myself as well.

This day July 22nd isnt the best day of my life so far. My son atri had fever. But he is ok now. Right time that he is ok.  Otherwise from best it would have become the worst birthday of my life which is now not a reality

Gopinath Radhakrishnan

April 13 2014 -Work Day being a Father

Let's Go to April 13th 2014.

I was playing with him till that day afternoon, I was running around my son who was sleeping on the bed.

He is my future, he is my prized possession, he will be my joy all through my life.

I will be ecstatic when he smiles at me.  Words cannot describe parenthood. On that day i did something very wrong

He will be going amok when he sees me sometime lying on bed, kicking his legs violently. He shows fantastic expressions, happiness, sad, anger, kindness, irritation, joy, hunger, anxious all in a matter of few seconds which makes me feel blessed.

However on that day, he was lying on the floor going amok seeing a religious show on the tv. I saw there was no cushion for him underneath.

I took him in my hand, laid him on my shoulders and then picked up the cotton sheets long enough for him and laid it carefully, laid another sheet. then the rubber sheet to prevent his poo poo or koo koo wetting the sheets, then i put a small cloth folded it to form a small pillow. All done

Now i was trying to lay him on the pillow, i put his butt on the mat and then it happened. he slipped out of my hand and he fell on the mat from a few inches above the mat. I was shocked, felt very bad, for a father i couldnt protect my Son.

He started crying, i felt deeply hurt. i quickly lifted him cuddled him and then  tried to pacify my crying son.
He stopped crying on his mom's shoulders  I felt very very bad,

I felt very careless and stupid, I will not be such a careless Father anymore and that would soon be a Reality.

Atri - 2 months and 3 weeks update

My Beloved son Atri is growing and growing fast. Its like the best thing that could have happened to my life after my wife. 

My Parents, Brothers are the first best thing in life for me. For to me they are way above everything. They are like the Unix Root Directory, nothing above it.

Atri is a quick learner and shows a variety of facial expressions. 

He raises one eye brow when you speak to him in an unfirendly tone.  He can smell food. He can understand that you are eating, He can understand you tone and react, which is amazing for a 3 month old kid. 

He has got the amazing sense of sorrounding. He watches TV a lot. Believe me he saw the Tamil Classic movie "Karnan" completely. Thats 3 hrs FYI,  

We allowed him to watch the movie as it tells about Ancient India .

He like his Maa (Mom) Dadi ( Grand Maa), Dada ( GrandPa), Periappa, Chittappa ( My brothers). 
He speaks in his own Gaga Gugu tone. There is one more amazing thing, he has got a greenish brown eyes, which i would love to see in the same stage or coloration when he is 18. 

There is lot more, in India we have our own traditional way of protecting child from Evil Eyes ( Bad Dhristi )
So my parents decided to do the Camphor Treatment. Here we take solid camphor, not made into tablets,
lit the camphor, transfer it to a plate and rotate it 5 times ( clockwise and anticlockwise)  from a distance infront of my son. 

Once thats done, the camphor is put in front of the house gate and that will be the last thing to be done before going to bed. 

When doing this, the most surprising thing happened in my life, My Son Atri started laughing instantaneously as soon as he smelled Camphor. He laughter was loud and pure. He was laughing, jumping, giggling and it lasted for a min and a half. 

That was an amazing 90 secs of my life. Though we have it recorded, we intend not to share the happiness with my friends or relatives yet. We may do so after he is an year old.

Atri will be 3 months old in 2 days from today and I strongly believe the next few months would be the most unforgettable period of my life and that will soon be a Reality. 

Atri Speaking to his mom - Mom Son spl bonding

Oh wow!!!

Am i listening to the God speak, just cannot believe my very own ears.

My Son Atri, 2 months old, was speaking to his mom while i am on this blog with his usual ooh ah, wah, ngyah,oah aha, aha, hehan, ayaan heeehan

I am on my laptop on this blog and he is on the bed doing his usual kooku mooku ( hands and legs kicking) .

Its such a wonderful feeling, my soul, my athma, my future, my blood, my generation, my success, my failure, Me as a person will be seen in his achievements.

I do not know what i am writing here, I know every Dad will be having the same feeling seeing his Son speaking or trying to speak with his mom in the God's language.

I cant believe he is now yelling at his mom asking something

Mom:  Do you want milk or what you want?
Son: ah, achek acklasd, eklkaoeripohaspuf;l2i34oi23

Mom: Sweet heart
Son: weporihokns[oakdfnpahsdroapowethkjfsdf

Mom:  Hey Krishna, dont jump i will pick you up
Son: as;dfkojapweoir238u42foasdfaosdfoashdf[oaishdf

Mom:  Its ok, its ok
Son: as;dfiqwioer;kwenf;asdklnf;asdfn;askldfaodhf

Mom: dont worry, come lets go to eat
Son:  Hmmm, Ahmmmm

Wow, so he definitely understands the words from his Mom, so he did communicate.

What did he say to his mom? or rather what was he trying to say? what did the mom understand?

Whats going on? As a Dad i can only see and feel the amazing bonding between Mom and a Son.

I am a son to my mom, I am a dad to a son.

My Mom ==> Me ==> My son ==> His Mom.

Me and My Son are bonded by 2 lovely "Moms"

I would have been doing the same Kooku Mokku when i was like him but was i like him or was he like me?

But sooner we will know the reality :)



Gopinath Radhakrishnan

My Son is 2 months old now.

My next generation,  I gave a Y. 

My son. 

I am father

I am what i am. 

Sri Atri is now 2 months old. We named him Atri in his mom's womb, oh wow he is a cutie. He's got Hazel eyes (sexy). The best gift from God. Those who miss him, miss god's creation.

My parents are the best parents in the world. I will pass the same to my Son to the best of my abilities. Outlook to life is lot different now, things that i am looking at have amplified. 

My passions, desires, dreams are still pending, i am trying to  achieve them and its now blowing out of proportion. 

I will and will for sure reach them achieve them, for sure. No matter what. 

Remember the famous Rocky quote,

“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!” 

My passions are deep and enormous and without hard work and dedication nothing can be achieved. 

Where is my dedication and hard work. I aint going to get a life if i dont work hard.  Its here inside my head somewhere got to move it to my heart. 

There will be a day when my dreams and passions will be acheived and that day will soon be a Reality. 


Gopinath Radhakrishnan